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The Dance of Anger

A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

By: Harriet Lerner

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The Dance of Anger

A Woman's Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships

By: Harriet Lerner

The renowned classic and New York Times bestseller that has transformed the lives of millions of readers, dramatically changing how women and men view relationships. Anger is something we feel. It exists for a reason and always deserves our respect and attention. We all have a right to everything we feel—and certainly our anger is no exception. "Anger is a signal and one worth listening to," writes Dr. Harriet Lerner in her renowned classic that has transformed the lives of millions of readers. While anger deserves our attention and respect, women still learn to silence our anger, to deny it entirely, or to vent it in a way that leaves us feeling helpless and powerless. In this engaging and eminently wise book, Dr. Lerner teaches both women and men to identify the true sources of anger and to use it as a powerful vehicle for creating lasting change. For decades, this book has helped millions of readers learn how to turn their anger into a constructive force for reshaping their lives. With a new introduction by the author, The Dance of Anger is ready to lead the next generation.

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Harper Collins

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0062328522

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9780062328526

The Dance of Deception

Pretending and Truth-Telling in Women's

By: Harriet Lerner

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The Dance of Deception

Pretending and Truth-Telling in Women's

By: Harriet Lerner

When The Dance of Deceptionwas published, Lerner discovered that women were not eager to identify with the subject. "Well, I don't do deception" was a common resonse. We all "do deception", often with the intention to protect ourselves and the relationships we depend on. The Dance of Deceptionunravels the ways (and whys) that women show the false and hide the real -- even to our own selves. We see how relationships are affected by lying and faking, by silence and pretending and by brave -- but misguided -- efforts to tell the truth. Truth-telling is at the heart of what is most central in women's lives. It is at the foundation of authenticity and creativity, intimacy and joy. Yet in the name of "honesty", we can bludgeon each other. We can approach a difficult issue with such a poor sense of timing and tact that we can actually shut down the lines of communication rather than widening the path of truth-telling. Sometimes Lerner's advice takes a surprising turn -- for example, when she asks us to engage in a bold act of pretending in order to discover something "more real"; or when she tells us not to parachute down on our family to bring up a "hot issue" without laying the necessary groundwork first. Whether the subject is affairs, family secrets, sexual faking or the challenge of "being oneself", Lerner helps us to discover, speak and live our own truths.

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371

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Harper Collins

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0061852740

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9780061852749

The Dance of Intimacy

A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships

By: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

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The Dance of Intimacy

A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships

By: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

Internationally acclaimed psychologist Harriet Lerner discusses how good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones healed. Dance of Intimacy presents specific steps for improving relationships where intimacy is challenged by too much distance, too much intensity, or simply too much pain.

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284

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HarperCollins Publishers

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0060160675

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9780060160678

Women in Therapy

By: Harriet Lerner

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Women in Therapy

By: Harriet Lerner

In clear, lively prose, Harriet Lerner takes a bold look at women and the psychotherapists who work with them.

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0060972289

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9780060972288

The Dance of Intimacy

A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships

By: Harriet Lerner

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The Dance of Intimacy

A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships

By: Harriet Lerner

In The Dance of Intimacy, the bestselling author of The Dance of Anger outlines the steps to take so that good relationships can be strengthened and difficult ones can be healed. Taking a careful look at those relationships where intimacy is most challenged--by distance, intensity, or pain--she teaches us about the specific changes we can make to achieve a more solid sense of self and a more intimate connectedness with others. Combining clear advice with vivid case examples, Dr. Lerner offers us the most solid, helpful book on intimate relationships that both women and men may ever encounter.

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274

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Harper Collins

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0061741078

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9780061741074

Women in Therapy

By: Harriet Lerner

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Women in Therapy

By: Harriet Lerner

In clear, lively prose, Harriet Lerner takes a bold look at women and the psychotherapists who work with them.

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0060972289

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Fear and Other Uninvited Guests

Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keep Us from Optimal Living and Loving

By: Harriet Lerner

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Fear and Other Uninvited Guests

Tackling the Anxiety, Fear, and Shame That Keep Us from Optimal Living and Loving

By: Harriet Lerner

Unhappiness, says bestselling author Harriet Lerner, is fueled by three key emotions: anxiety, fear, and shame. They are the uninvited guests in our lives. When tragedy or hardship hits, they may become our constant companions. Anxiety can wash over us like a tidal wave or operate as a silent thrum under the surface of our daily lives. With stories that are sometimes hilarious and sometimes heartbreaking, Lerner takes us from "fear lite" to the most difficult lessons the universe sends us. We learn: how a man was "cured in a day" of the fear of rejection -- and what we can learn from his story how the author overcame her dread of public speaking when her worst fears were realized how to deal with the fear of not being good enough, and with the shame of feeling essentially flawed and inadequate how to stay calm and clear in an anxious, crazy workplace how to manage fear and despair when life sends a crash course in illness, vulnerability, and loss how "positive thinking" helps -- and harms how to be our best and bravest selves, even when we are terrified and have internalized the shaming messages of others No one signs up for anxiety, fear, and shame, but we can’t avoid them either. As we learn to respond to these three key emotions in new ways, we can live more fully in the present and move into the future with courage, clarity, humor, and hope. Fear and Other Uninvited Guests shows us how.

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258

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Harper Collins

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0060081570

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9780060081577

Why Won't You Apologize?

Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

By: Harriet Lerner

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Why Won't You Apologize?

Healing Big Betrayals and Everyday Hurts

By: Harriet Lerner

The best-selling author of The Dance of Anger shares insight into the role of apologies in healing broken connections and restoring trust, sharing compelling case stories and tested theories that explain how to craft a meaningful apology while avoiding choices that deepen original injuries.

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208

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Simon and Schuster

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1501129597

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9781501129599

PowerPlays

How Teens Can Pull the Plug on Sexual Harassment

By: Harriet Hodgson

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How Teens Can Pull the Plug on Sexual Harassment

By: Harriet Hodgson

Simple, thorough answers on how to identify and stop teen sexual harassment

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180

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Fairview Press

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0925190675

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9780925190673

The Dance of Connection

How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

By: Harriet Lerner

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The Dance of Connection

How to Talk to Someone When You're Mad, Hurt, Scared, Frustrated, Insulted, Betrayed, or Desperate

By: Harriet Lerner

Bestselling author Harriet Lerner focuses on the challenge and the importance of being able to express one's "authentic voice" in intimate relationships. The key problem in relationships, particularly over time, is that people begin to lose their voice. Despite decades of assertiveness training and lots of good advice about communicating with clarity, timing, and tact, women and men find that their greatest complaints in marriage and other intimate relationships are that they are not being heard, that they cannot affect the other person, that fights go nowhere, that conflict brings only pain. Although an intimate, long-term relationship offers the greatest possibilities for knowing the other person and being known, these relationships are also fertile ground for silence and frustration when it comes to articulating a true self. And yet giving voice to this self is at the center of having both a relationship and a self. Much as she did in THE MOTHER DANCE, Lerner will approach this rich subject with tales from her personal life and clinical work, inspiring and teaching readers to speak their own truths to the most important people in their lives.

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272

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Harper Collins

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0061851833

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9780061851834

Recovering at Home with a Heart Condition

A Practical Guide for You and Your Family

By: Florence Weiner,Mathew H. M. Lee,Harriet Bell

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Recovering at Home with a Heart Condition

A Practical Guide for You and Your Family

By: Florence Weiner,Mathew H. M. Lee,Harriet Bell

A new, comprehensive guide to every aspect of daily living for people recovering from a heart condition-and for their families and other caring helpers.

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Perigee Books

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0399518444

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9780399518447

The Dance of Deception

Pretending and Truth-telling in Women's Lives

By: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

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The Dance of Deception

Pretending and Truth-telling in Women's Lives

By: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

An exploration of the role of pretending and truth-telling in women's lives discusses the difference between privacy and secrecy, how women are encouraged to pretend, and how pretending prevents a deeper intimacy.

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0060168161

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Franny B. Kranny, There's a Bird in Your Hair!

By: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

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Franny B. Kranny, There's a Bird in Your Hair!

By: Harriet Goldhor Lerner

Franny B. Kranny refuses to cut her wild hair, despite her family's insistence, and wears a bird in her hair to a family reunion.

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Book's by Harriet Goldhor Lerner

The Dance of Anger

The Dance of Anger

The Dance of Deception

The Dance of Deception

The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy

Women in Therapy

Women in Therapy

The Dance of Intimacy

The Dance of Intimacy

Women in Therapy

Women in Therapy

Fear and Other Uninvited Guests

Fear and Other Uninvited Guests

Why Won't You Apologize?

Why Won't You Apologize?

PowerPlays

PowerPlays

The Dance of Connection

The Dance of Connection

Recovering at Home with a Heart Condition

Recovering at Home with a Heart Condition

The Dance of Deception

The Dance of Deception

Franny B. Kranny, There's a Bird in Your Hair!

Franny B. Kranny, There's a Bird in Your Hair!

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